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Originally Posted by ElectricManatee
I'm awake! Still more of a couch lurker sometimes. I've spent most of the weekend thus far contemplating seeing my T again on Monday after our recent rupture. I think it will be okay, but I'm nervous anyway. This one is kind of complicated, but I get the sense that she already understands some/most of it. She digs complicated anyway, so that's something.
I've never really understood transference. Like, sometimes I can tell that I am expecting my T to think/say or do something a parent of mine would say or do, even knowing that she doesn't act/feel that way toward me. That seems like transference. But sometimes she delights me or pisses me off in her own right, and it seems like labeling that transference takes away some of the value and power of really feeling those things in the therapeutic relationship.
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What was your rupture about (if you care to share)?
I agree that if everything gets labelled as part of the transference then some of the benefits of the therapeutic relationship and process can be hampered. For me, I can tell when my feelings are transference... hmm trying to figure out how to say this.... so I'll try this way... I am almost 100% accurate when I label something as transference, I am more like 70% accurate (maybe less) when I label something as just part of the therapeutic relationship. I am glad that my T sees the therapeutic relationship just as if not more important than the transference based relationship. I think it results in her taking more ownership of her part in events and misunderstandings that might arise. I am also happy that she is ok and finds it an honor/joy to be playing this role in my life, which includes some reparenting.