Great Topic! It got me thinking. When I started therapy I promised myself that I would be up front and honest with my docs or this was going to be a waste. It would be like putting a band-aid on the problems rather than figuring out the causes so they don't continue to rule my life.

While in an EMDR session my therapist asked a very difficult, very embarrassing question and after I answered it she said "thank you for being so honest" to which I responded "this won't work if I'm not".

I've been with the same tdoc and EMDR therapist since the beginning and I am very comfortable - these are my safe places, the only people I'm really comfortable sharing with.

So what could I do to improve:
What I don't do, that I need to start, is reach out to them outside my appointments when I am struggling. I have a bad habit of not wanting to bother them and suffering until I my next appointment.

When we have talked about these times I'm always asked why I don't call. I don't want to bother them; I want to be respectful of their time. I also learned as a child to hold it in, my complaints went unanswered and the abuse continued. So why bother... They continually assure me they are there for me.

So this new year I will work at reaching out to them. And as I think about this, it should give me the confidence to share more with my family/friends.

Wish me luck!