I was not nurtured myself, and i was pretty actively discouraged from playing with dolls, and even kept away from my younger cousins when they were babies. I was always pushed to read books and otherwise act like a grownup, not play with other kids. So frankly, i have a low tolerance for the needs of children - for the needs of anyone else, really. I think you cant give what you never got. My bucket is empty.

Eta - i thought about having kids for about 5 minutes in my 30's. My mother said, dont look for any help from me. I should have asked her sister, shes like super-granny. Too late now!