I have another problem too, besides what I said in the original post. I have trouble seeing humor as funny things that people say or do, or jokes that they sometimes tell too. I just don't "get it" at all. It goes right over my head. I sit there with this puzzled look on my face and say something like, "Huh?"

The one type of humor that I do "get" is puns. I can often understand those and appreciate them. My late husband was a pro at punning, and that was one of the things that I loved about him most. He could almost always make me laugh with some silly pun. However, often folks grown at puns and say they don't think they are funny. I don't often pun anyway, I am not witty like that. I just appreciate it when others are.

Usually a pun does not make anyone the butt of the joke, so that is another aspect of it that I enjoy. No one's feelings are being hurt by it, it is good clean fun.

I wish I could remove myself from the place where all of what I described in the original post is going on, but I can't. I WORK THERE.

I have tried to ignore it, but that gets kind of OLD after awhile. Also, the original offender has left, but is playing the victim, blaming me and the others who he has bullied as people that are, "trying to get me into trouble." Now all his friends, who he made sure are in high places on the chain of command there, are mad at ME because he has left. It is all MY FAULT. So it is very uncomfortable for me there sometimes recently. However, it was very uncomfortable before too, when this guy was there. It is a lose, lose kind of situation for me at times.

Some folks have tried to cause trouble too, by asking ME why he is not there. I have been told by my distant boss to advise them to ask the Director of the place. She is the one that spoke to him last (by phone, as far as I know). She has already repeated his words to everyone, but I guess either some folks were not there that day, or they did not hear her or they forgot what she said.

I am happy in one way. There should be no more confrontation with this person, or teasing or picking or whatever. I just hope he stays away. Only time will tell.

As to the other one who always excuses herself with, "Oh, I was just teasing." I told her once, "No you weren't!" She asked me how I knew. I just said that I knew, was all. And really, when she was "just teasing" is never really the case. Hardly ever, really. She just excuses her weirdness and rudeness by saying that, is all, and since I know she really does not mean to be rude or nasty, I kind of just ignore her or change the subject or whatever I can do to divert her from more "teasing." Usually I can take her "teasing." It is usually not that bad. She likes to stir up trouble too, but again, a lot of folks seem to just ignore her. I guess that is what I should do when she gets weird.