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Originally Posted by SheilaKathy
I have another problem too... I have trouble seeing humor as funny things that people say or do, or jokes that they sometimes tell too. I just don't "get it" at all. It goes right over my head. I sit there with this puzzled look on my face and say something like, "Huh?"
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Same for me in many ways, and that does not make us weird people or justify laughter at us from others.
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Originally Posted by SheilaKathy
The one type of humor that I do "get" is puns... However, often folks groan at puns and say they don't think they are funny.
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Not everyone has the same type or kind of Theory Of Mind (T.O.M.), so one person's pun is not "punny" to someone else.
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Originally Posted by SheilaKathy
I wish I could remove myself from the place where all of what I described in the original post is going on, but...
...he has left...
... There should be no more confrontation with this person, or teasing or picking or whatever. I just hope he stays away.
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Same here...and maybe this will help if some new situation might come up:
I once had a supervisor who was occasionally quite disrespectful to me, but I never told fellow workers -- no gossip whatsoever -- or even said anything to him about that. Also, neither did I ever make any kind of complaint when I went to HR for a solution to try to bring all of that to an end. At HR, I simply asked (and then never wavered away from this single-and-specific question): "What should I do the next time my supervisor speaks to me disrespectfully?" It took a few days to eventually get that situation straightened out, but I only gave the details while the three of us (HR, supervisor and me) were together in the same room...and then I also did not let the two of them distract me from my question to HR: "What should I do the next time my supervisor speaks to me disrespectfully?" I was never actually given a clear answer, but my supervisor did ultimately admit to his wrong-doing and promise to not do that again.
Bottom line: Let the people with the authority and power to resolve problems be the ones taking all the action against wrong-doers!