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Originally Posted by Elio
How did your T explain it?
Like I said in other post, I recently told my T that I need her to be as I make (see) her to be. This came up because I hosted a game night. The first one of these, I invited her to the event and she declined (was going to be out of town). I really wanted her at the event. This one, I told her that I didn't want her there because of needing/wanting to see her as I see her. I felt that if I was to see at game night, I might see behaviors or mannerisms that doesn't fit my picture of her and that might take away from my therapy. I know and strongly believe that I only see elements of T's personality. I believe what I see is genuine but very limited. I need to feel that level of attentiveness at this time in my life by this person. I am ok with this information and place in my therapy and development.
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I don't remember.
I agree, I only see parts of T's personality and life, too. I feel my T is genuine, as well.
I feel so lost sometimes. Maybe I need T and PrevT to be heros. I need them to know more..or know how to help me interact more successfully in my day to day life. I'm not naturally organized, calm or confident. I guess I need to see all of that in them. Maybe I fill in some of the blanks in our therapeutic relationship the way I hope it is..
I'm not sure I understand your last two sentences- are you saying you need to see your T in a limited way because you may be disappointed? But you're ok with the relationship right now?