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Originally Posted by elmo3334
Hello everyone,
I'm new here and hoping to get some help with PE issues I've been having.
This is my story...
Growing up and hitting puberty I got clinically depressed. Because it was left untreated I shifted into a state of chronic dysthimia (a mild form of depression with basically no highs or lows in your life). To keep the story short, during this period my only stress release was masturbation and p 0 r n and I would rely on these tools frequently to help matters. I never had a girlfriend because of my state, so lasting long was never an issue. I always focused on the end game which was ejaculation. This obviously crippled me in the sense that I most certainly PE (I reach PONR in under a minute while masturbating).
This is my problem...
I recently met a girl I really care about. We got to know each other and I realized after spending a lot of time with her I would pre-cum just talking with her for the simplest of topics (non-sex related mostly) At a point we shared a bed and I went down on her many times successfully. Now when she tried to return the favor by giving me a handjob I almost instantly ejaculated after maybe half a minute. Another time we did 69 and while I thought I was getting use to her handjob ritual she turned it into a blowjob and I cam after maybe 5 blows. I almost didn't realize it until it was too late.
I've never had any prior experience with a woman and she obviously could tell that I was fast to ejaculate with her, however she was understanding and thought this will go away in time. She believes I just need to get use to these new sensations. I however am afraid this is not the case.
This is my goal...
We live at distance and I will be seeing her face to face in 2 months time from now. I would like to correct this issue if possible because I really care about her and I don't want her to think I am being selfish. I would like to last long in bed for sex including blowjobs. My goal for now is 10 minutes. I was thinking of investing in a Fleshlight STU or something similar and do some practice with exercises but I don't know where to start and I would really appreciate any advise I can get from you guys. The only thing I'm afraid of is that my case isirreparable right now and I need some hope that it's not.
Thanks in advance for all the help!
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Hi Elmo,
Welcome to PC! I feel bad because no one has responded to you and while I'm a woman and really can't relate, I do know that a LOT of young men have this issue. It's awesome though that she's being patient and understanding.
I have a couple of ideas for you. What if you were to masturbate right before you have sex with your GF? I would think that you could last longer if you had just ejaculated. You could just excuse yourself and go do it really quickly in the bathroom since you said that you can do it in less than a minute!
And if you have intercourse, I hope that you'd use a condom which should also lessen the sensitivity and protect her from pregnancy and protect you from possible STDs. In fact, maybe you could wear 2 condoms? That would definitely limit the sensitivity in your penis.
Another thing that I've heard is that guys will try to think about something non-sexual while they are having sex. Maybe think about changing a tire, lol!
Also, google PE as there is a ton of info available online.
I hope that one of these ideas works. GOOD LUCK!!