Okay. I had the impression that Artchic was much younger. It doesn't look like moving out is a viable option anytime soon.

In life, there's a price for everything. It sounds like this situation isn't going to change. When you live with people, you are forced to put up with them. The dad isn't likely to change. I've known a few situations where individuals in their 30's lived with their parents. It seems to never be a happy situation.

Artchick, you seem to have affection and empathy for your father, despite the difficult relationship. Maybe, from time to time, you could engage him in some conversation about his unhappiness - adult to adult. He's probably lonely. He sees you as a child he has to provide for. Maybe you still see your relationship with him as though you are supposed to be dependent, and he is supposed to be the provider. The two of you may need to relate to each other on a new basis. That tends to happen more naturally when a son or daughter leaves the nest. With you still being in the parental home, making that transition will be harder, and you'll have to take the lead.