Hi Sheila, this situation with the guy at work seems to be a recurring theme in your posts. I hope that as you continue with therapy you can dig deep into issues of childhood bullying and abuse. And look at how that effects your reactions to situations in your life now.

Unfortunately, There is always going to be that one jerk in any work or social situation. You can't avoid them. Trying to figure out why they are like they are is pretty much a waste of your time. Hope you can find a peaceful resolution.