Coral, I hear where you're coming from. My wife is definitely in charge and I knock myself out trying to do everything I possibly can for her and my kids. I know we're both exhausted but a little recognition is nice now and again.

Truth is though, once you're married with kids, the husband is the last priority. Number one is the kids. Number two is the wife. Number three is the dog. Number four is the husband. We are an after thought. What we want, need, think, it's all secondary.

This is more or less out of necessity. The kids have obvious needs and are 100% dependent. The wife is the primary care giver to the kids so what she needs to continue on is the next priority. The dog is a dependent and will poop on your couch if you don't take care of her. Us? We're just expected to keep the show going, one way or another.

This seems to be the most recent update to the traditional family structure. In previous generations, the woman was completely exploited and her needs/wants were ignored. Now the power arrangement seems to have shifted in some demographics. Obviously the old structure still applies in many cases but it certainly does not apply at my house.

I could see getting flamed for this post but it's true in my case so it's just an honest observation.

Cyran0