What's the difference between being loving and supportive and being an enabler? If I nitpick I can see enabling in every loving relationship, yet in my relationship people feel that they can call my loving support enabling. I worry myself about being an enabler, don't get me wrong, but if it's a thing that is only an issue to others and not to me is it wrong? I'm not going to get too specific, but as an analagy, if I buy cards and presents for my bf's family because he doesn't care to do it himself and I want his family to not feel neglected, then technically I am enabling his indifference to his family, but if it's not important to them how the cards and such are bought, and I don't mind picking stuff up while I'm at the store anyway, then is it really enabling? I have not picked a great example, really, but it's all I can think of and it's really my bf's analagy (he's good at them)