</font><blockquote><div id="quote"><font class="small">Quote:</font>
sincity74 said:
do you think its ok to think about being hurt in a sexual way? i mean not just like being submission but like really getting beat up or raped?

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">

IMO - as a sexually abused child for ten years......
I would have to say that thinking about getting hurt during sex is kind of our way of dealing with being raped as a child....... its called "Trauma Bonding" where we bond to that which hurt us in the first place as a means to heal the inner pain in a strangely odd but close way.