kids are highly influenced by their parents at all ages I think. how they take the influence is different at different ages. I know what youre feeling because thats my dad in a nut shell. A lot of kids would take the dad being drunk and think that means its okay. But me... I am almost terrified to drink now. I will never allow myself to have a beer if I get the thought that "i need a beer".

It really depends on the kids. Some kids take being abused and then abuse their children. Some kids take it and say "i will never treat my kids like that". I think more often than not its following in their parents footsteps and it takes a special person to realize "i dont want to be like this" and do the opposite.

as others have said, being in college is enough pressure to drink and do drugs. But even if you and your husband were prefect good-doers who never slipped up, they probably would still drink and do whatever. I think being open with them and asking them is the trick.