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Originally Posted by Mapper
If you met me in person you wouldn't even know that it's me writing this stuff. I am such a meek and quiet and mild mannered person who does everything in their power to help and be friendly to others. This is where I get my anger out. I don't go to therapy because I'm too shy and it's too awkward for me. I have done therapy online but it's still the same as here. They can tell me what I need to do, to speak up, to not be a doormat, but I know before even starting a session that I'm not going to change because I'm too afraid of people (husband, stepdaughter, coworkers, mother)being angry at me for saying how I feel about them. So I just push everything down into the pit of my stomach and act like everything is fine and dandy. Yup, I know it's a bad thing, but it's what I've been doing my entire life and I'm still kicking.
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This is a me-me-me thing though. What about the unsuspecting people who already are pretty depleted by the time they come here? They attempt, out of the goodness of their hearts, to give you advice and suggestions (because not until you're called out do you say I'M VENTING, NO RESPONSE NEEDED)?
They spent time thinking about and trying to help you with your problems and you slap them in the face by telling them you have no intention of changing and we should all just move along. Then you're actually laughing at us.
It's cruel to your fellow board members and kind of abusive (they way you say you feel abused all the time).
Change your perspective of your "venting" here and in the future if you want NO RESPONSE REQUIRED, start a journal or an online blog. Then you'll never have to worry about anyone calling you out on your crap and the people here can try to help people who WANT help.