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Originally Posted by Shazerac
I hear you Ruby. I too wonder why some people recover and others wallow in misery for the rest of their life. It makes me sad to see people suffer, but it's also frustrating.
Personally I've have never seen good that came from spending one's life blaming the parents. I also believe there is some level choice involved. Sure it not easy and it can almost rip your guts out.
I believe ALL human adults have free will, including the mentally ill. We can chose to seek help or refuse to seek help. It's still a choice.
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I agree about blaming parents.I think there's a big difference in 'placing' blame where it belongs and continually blaming.I know my parents are to blame for my PTSD,it took alot of therapy to remove the blame from myself(that I deserved it,I was a bad kid,etc) to placing it where it belongs,on them.But,I'm an adult,and I can't just keep blaming them for everything and do nothing to help myself.If I don't seek out the help that's available and put my all into healing,that's not their fault,it's my own.If I did continue blaming them,to me that's just making excuses.
I'm glad you agree that it's a choice whether to seek help or not.That's what I don't understand,why some choose not to and would rather spend the rest of their life blaming their problems on their childhood and making excuses rather than taking responsibility for themselves and seeking help.And complaining that nothing will ever help,nothing will ever change,they will never get better,without actually putting in any time or effort at trying.