Hi Iwanttohavehope ((Hugs))
I am sorry to hear of your troubles and I have not experienced what you are going through but fully understand the need and desire to be independent. I moved from my parent's house to my spouse's house and never had the pleasure of living on my own and by my own rules, so I empathize with you.

I am not sure how old you are and you need not disclose that cause what I am about to share has nothing to do with age other than how one thinks. I would suggest you return to school, perhaps a short program (6 months to 2 years) and learn a new trade or improve your current trade/career thus increasing your chances for employment with a decent wage, hopefully at least a few bucks above minimum wage. It will also allow you to change your environment giving you constructive time away from your mom and provide a cooling off period for her. You will find that most trade schools offer job placement assistance and offer financial aid as well. Again, some programs are as short as 6 months and as long as 2 years and also most offer a Certificate or Diploma upon completion. I work at a secondary school and have seen all ages attend the programs. Well, it's just a thought. I hope my input was helpful in hopefully directing you or giving you additional ideas of how to better your situation.

I wish you good health and every success! Be good to you always !