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Old Sep 20, 2017, 04:14 PM
rdgrad15 rdgrad15 is offline
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Originally Posted by Shazerac View Post
I play dumb in situations as an assertive technique. It works well when someone is trying to guilt trip and/or manipulate me.
Example:

Inlaw: I need you need to take my cousin to the airport at 4:00am because I can't.

Me: I don't understand, why do I need to do it?

Inlaw: well I can't so YOU have to.

Me: I still don't understand, why do I have to do it?

Inlaw (raises voice getting irritated): well what kind of person won't help their own sister in law???

Me: I don't know....what kind of person would do that?

Inlaw: well fine I'll get someone else to do it!! (Hangs up phone)

It's a great teqnique I learned from a book I read called "when I say no I feel guilty."
I love that! Never done that before but I could use that technique if I ever needed to if someone is trying to manipulate me.