I agree that it's not simple pachyderm.

It's hard to find the right kind of help,or even good help and sometimes those that are supposed to help make things worse instead of better.I've been through my fair share of therapists through the years, I have wasted much time and money on 'treatments' until I finally found one that was worthwhile and helpful.

I do realize not everyone can afford therapy or even medication,but there's other ways for people to seek ways to help themselves.Sometimes simple things help(some), like self help books,meditation,etc.Even joining sites like this can be helpful.

I'm not really talking about those who completely heal vs those that don't,I'm talking about those that try vs those that don't,I'm talking about the ones that won't even try the simplest of things,like my brother,there's really no excuse for that.