(((((ev)))))
i agree with Cthomas- i believe it is very much a trust issue. Since I have become aware of the fact that something may have happened to me I have become very anti-touching. I have gone thru phases in my life of never giving/accepting hugs, then being a very affectionate person and now back to only being affectionate with my girls. I freak out every time someone touches me whether they are male or female, it was intentional or an accident (e.g. reaching across the table and a hand brushes against me). I am sorry that I have no actual advice to offer, just to say that I am thinking of you and I hope you are able to work thru this slowly but surely. Maybe it is a time thing, depending on where you are in dealing with these issues. Don't rush anything, just go at your own pace... and take care