Well Laurie. I beg to differ.

If I said "I would like to help you, but I am unable to take your cousin to the airport." That would be a BIG FAT LIE. I'm not going to let someone manipulate me into lying for their sake

There is no requirement that I have to want to help someone. Further more just because I'm capable of doing something doesn't mean I have to do it or even have to want to do it.

I'm not going to waffle around and say gee I want to but I can't. I don't like to say I can't when I can, but chose not to. It's a cop out. I'm not helpless, I can do whatever I want to do.

I help people all the time, but I do it by choice...not because someone browbeat me into it.

That may sound harsh, but friends and family are sometimes all to willing to guilt trip you into doing things. I no longer play that game.

In my opinion there's all kinds of growth in standing up for one's self and refusing to be manipulated.