Hello golden_eve.

I actually tried the don't talk unless you can be civil thing before. It's ended up with long stretches of nothing bit text messages. Domineering texts. To the point where I get nervous when I see there's a message, because she's the only person that texts me. I turned off the notification, I still see them sometimes.

I can sometimes get away, but the car I drive to town with is in the shop so I'm housebound at the moment. The only time I get to myself is going out in the evening to listen to podcasts and have a soda. She has about as much of a life as me and is home most of the day (she's retired). Those odd nights she's gone, I stay up as late as I can...playing music without headphones and doing my own laundry. Exciting, I know. It still feels like a mini vacation when she's not there.

I've asked her in the past and present to talk to someone about this and she flips it on me. I sometimes think she enjoys the hostility.