I'm not calling YOU shaming.....I'm saying what you said can be taken by the down and out as shaming. If that doesn't reasonate with you, then accept it as my flawed opinion. This is the second time I've stated how I honestly felt and you've kinda attacked me for being honest. When I am doing well, I often forget how hard it is when I'm not and say things which aren't supportive. I'm not perfect nor do I need to be. I'm trying to honor the feelings of the lost and hopeless who read. They don't need to feel worse about themselves because they are stuck in a "can't" cycle. You see me as criticizing you personally and I know for an absolute fact I'm not. Perhaps you can ask yourself why you feel I'm doing this? I like what you say......I even like what you said in this post but that doesn't mean it's the whole story or only side to things.