I personally found that it was best NOT to tell my husband about my the odd feelings & thoughts I was having sexually...... I left that talk to take place with my T and myself.

BTW - I found that I was able to lessen my bizarre sexual thoughts and finally deal with it until they were no longer a big pulling force in my life - by digging deep and working thru my most feared wounds over an eight year span in therapy..... for it is thru HEALING that we are able to get back to being NORMAL (what I felt was normal for me).