I have pretty much the same relationship with my daughter or rather...lack there of. I'm afraid of her. She's mentally ill, untreated, abuses drugs and is violent. She's also 3 inches taller than me and outweighs me by 50 pounds. She could could snap me in half like a twig. I won't be alone with her. She's 45 years old and still blames me for all her problems in life.

It's a loss I grieve everyday. I have no contact with her now, by my choice. If she can't be in my presence and harm me physically, she attempts to destroy me verbally over the phone. I refuse to put myself through that anymore!

I don't know what to say other than I feel your pain.