......... I am sorry your communication problems led to seperation....I understand its nice to be listen'd to .....heck thats what I'd like...to be listen'd to...we have a great life style and probably what most would consider the perfect marraige...... though some may have a perfect marraige...I have yet to see one...including ours

even one of my wifes best friends, her and her husband(him mostly) are very religious, they have many more problems with communication than us even, heck even she and other of her friends tell my wife how lucky she is....she called the other morning around 10:00am and my wife was still in bed, so her friend gave me the perfect husband award for keeping the kids entertained and letting her stay in bed...I liked that

I let her sleep in friday thru sunday, provide her with anything she wants or needs and do listen to her all the time, it is just when we have a problem that we have communication break down, though I am sure "I contribute", as well, I am not gonna sit around and be as passive as her father is to her mother and she knows it LOL...her mother jokes all the time about one time when she was over (which is a few times a week) since she lives down the road, my wife was naggin me about something, I told her your not gonna talk to me like your mother does your father, you can take that to the bank......so when ever we are at her parents house around her dad, if she says something snipy...her mom will jokingly say " your not gonna talk to Eddie like I do your father " where he can hear it LOL

I quess she respects the fact that I am not a push over like him, I don't think women want a total passive wimp either,but may be wrong

I don't feel our problems would ever lead to a seperation since we have yet to even spend a day apart....but i quess that is just something you can't predetermin

Heck...I'm gonna be building a small quest house with a sleeping loft and bathroom, for when her family comes up from florida to visit, then I will also have a safe haven, LOL

It was funny last night her and one of her friends got a little drunk when we were playing cards, they had a little dispute about the rules about something....though it was not a serious dispute, they both would not back down, then this morning her friend called her and they got into it again LOL, her husband said they are just alike...it was funny to me and him

atleast her friend gets to plead her case LOL ...he or I would just be wrong if they were disputing with us