Hi Lennie, I think it is common for us to have romantic feelings about our caregivers. Recently I had them about my pdoc. My pdco knows all about my illness and yet completely accepts me as a person. I really craved that acceptance. It seemed like other people in my life either did not understand my illness or did not accept me.

To get through the feelings, I had to do a lot of journaling and then, eventually, talked about it with my pdoc. One thing I discovered through journaling and talking about it was that I fantasized about things that were missing in my current relationships. I needed to pursue those things in my current relationships instead of with fantasies about him.

Mental health workers are accustom to this type of thing—its part of the client/caregiver relationship that happens with some people.