I’m unclear about your jealousy?

You’re jealous because she enjoyed a high sex drive and had various exciting sexual experiences but now that she’s older - and ill - she just isn’t ready to rock your world often?

Okay, so maybe she was trying to impress you with her exploits. But ya gotta realize the whole that-was-then crap and it sounds as if she’s not as happy with her body as she was three decades in the past.

My experience as a total-slut-freak is that we seek out our own and that norms die suddenly if we’re honest with them. It seems that you’re a norm, maybe excited by the whole slut-girl story, and jealous and with a crunched-ego because Jeannie ain’t wearin’ those slit-skirts no more?

The sponge-bath erection is odd. To me. She came to you with stories of sexual prowess beyond the pale but won’t pole-dance for you. Not even an Erotic Dance with Cornbread.

I think that you both share some responsibility in this... problem. She seemed to promise to be your slut and you, unrealistically, expected the same. When things didn’t turn out as expected, you have a damaged ego.

From what I’ve read, I don’t see a couple engaged in honest conversation about sex. I believe that’s true for most mono/mono/hetero couples.

My advice would be to begin honest conversations: start with the ‘I felt hurt when my briefs were bursting as I bathed you whilst you were ill.’ Follow that with, ‘I was really an idiot to think that an ill person would hop from the tub to care for my raging dinky.’

I mean, you had - and seem to have had for some time - unrealistic expectations of this woman. And, yes, she was complicit in establishing those expectations. It’s time to have that talk, too.

My impure mind cannot imagine an act between a male and female that would have been performed two decades ago with one partner that could not be repeated with a contemporaneous partner. Can you name one?

You and your mate are poles apart. Time to come together, I think.