Good for you!!! That is a GREAT realization. And I'm glad your friend changed course. Happy to hear you are pursuing trauma therapy. I, too, have been a pushover and am far too "nice", so I can relate to this.

I have to learn how to say no better myself. As it is, I tried to exit from an online friendship, then felt too guilty for the way I handled it, so I added her back on my Skype when I really did not want to! Argh.