Thanks for all the dog advice--her crying was also upsetting D, who was crying and yelling in the middle of the night about it, so she ended up sleeping with H in the bedroom (all our rooms are on different floors--split-level townhouse). And then I slept a couple hours on the couch in the office just to get a bit of sleep. D still refuses to be in same room as dog (so the tiny bit of progress from last night seems to have gone away). So right now, it's like I need to be with D, which means the dog is blocked off, sad and whimpering, with the dog, which has D calling for me, or just by myself for a few.

In the middle of the night, amidst the crying, etc., I also started crying and told H I'm afraid we've made a horrible mistake in adopting her. Like, she seems like a pretty great dog, just maybe I'm not cut out to be a dog owner. He said let's give it the weekend (but tomorrow will be a nightmare because H has a work thing from like 6 a.m. to 4 p.m., so it will be me running interference between D and dog).

The rescue has a thing where they can take the dog back in the first 7 days (or anytime--we're obligated to give her back to them rather than rehome her ourselves). And it's apparently pretty common, since some dogs are listed as "she came back to us through no fault of her own" (or something like that). And I feel like if we're considering that, better to do it sooner than later--to me that's better than waiting till she's gotten used to the house/us to do it. But then at the same time, maybe we just need time to get used to each other (mostly D and dog). To clarify, this isn't just about me being selfish--it's partly about D feeling comfortable in our home and about the dog's happiness. She deserves to be someplace with people who really want and adore her. Maybe that could become us...(it sounds like this "adopter's remorse" thing is pretty common and often passes, but how can you tell?).