Thanks for the kind words about the dog. And sorry to disappoint, Demunie, but we've decided to give her back and have already contacted the woman from the rescue group, who understood. The biggest thing is D's intense fear of the dog...The sort of deal-sealer was when she went into D's room this morning (when I thought H watching her) and pooped on her pillow. Which I know is a sign of trying to dominate. But...we can't have the dog dominating our 6-year-old daughter with ASD. I know I could work on asserting dominance over her (H already has), but I don't think I have the emotional energy to do that right now... So I think this decision is in everyone's best interest (including the dog).