Recently I was yelling at my youngest daughter. My boyfriend said we weren't communicating to each other in any way and we should see a therapist to learn how. He said to try and be curious and ask what she wanted, to listen, and respond. I put my frustration away and did that. I wonder if I've learnt to respond to a female being *****y by rolling up my sleeves and entering the fray. My mom is an alcoholic and hunted me to find out ways to hurt me. I am going to try getting closer to other ladies with the idea that I can be okay if they get angry.