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Old Sep 22, 2017, 02:15 PM
rufiki rufiki is offline
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Originally Posted by ciderguy View Post
I’m unclear about your jealousy?

You’re jealous because she enjoyed a high sex drive and had various exciting sexual experiences but now that she’s older - and ill - she just isn’t ready to rock your world often?

Okay, so maybe she was trying to impress you with her exploits. But ya gotta realize the whole that-was-then crap and it sounds as if she’s not as happy with her body as she was three decades in the past.

My experience as a total-slut-freak is that we seek out our own and that norms die suddenly if we’re honest with them. It seems that you’re a norm, maybe excited by the whole slut-girl story, and jealous and with a crunched-ego because Jeannie ain’t wearin’ those slit-skirts no more?

The sponge-bath erection is odd. To me. She came to you with stories of sexual prowess beyond the pale but won’t pole-dance for you. Not even an Erotic Dance with Cornbread.

I think that you both share some responsibility in this... problem. She seemed to promise to be your slut and you, unrealistically, expected the same. When things didn’t turn out as expected, you have a damaged ego.

From what I’ve read, I don’t see a couple engaged in honest conversation about sex. I believe that’s true for most mono/mono/hetero couples.

My advice would be to begin honest conversations: start with the ‘I felt hurt when my briefs were bursting as I bathed you whilst you were ill.’ Follow that with, ‘I was really an idiot to think that an ill person would hop from the tub to care for my raging dinky.’

I mean, you had - and seem to have had for some time - unrealistic expectations of this woman. And, yes, she was complicit in establishing those expectations. It’s time to have that talk, too.

My impure mind cannot imagine an act between a male and female that would have been performed two decades ago with one partner that could not be repeated with a contemporaneous partner. Can you name one?

You and your mate are poles apart. Time to come together, I think.
It's not like I expect her to be some sex freak. And obviously, right now, she is not capable of doing anything. But she's only been on psych meds for 2 months now, But her sex drive seemed to go away 6 years ago, I can't exactly sat, but probably within the first month we were dating. I would never expect anything from her at this time. And as for the time I was bathing her, I never even mentioned that it was turning me on, She noticed the wet spot on the crotch of my jeans and told me I was sick for getting turned on while she was sick. I kept my mouth shut.

Look, right now, I don't have anything going on in my life, just a sick girlfriend, and work, which together take up all of my time. I've been thinking a lot about what might be out of whack about my life, and my sex life is one of them, but I could never talk about this in real life.