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Originally Posted by JaneB1
Hey Guys,
So my boyfriend and i have been together for 6 years, up until the past couple of months we had sex almost everyday.
Now we have hit a big dry spell, which started because we had family visit and we shared a room for a couple of weeks.
Our sex life never peaked back, i feel it may be my fault because i felt somewhat relieved that i didn't have to have so much sex and i think i preferred it.
Well now all my boyfriend talks about is sex, how much we are not having it, how a relationship can't work without sex & that if our sex life doesn't go back to normal then we might as well end our relationship.
This attitude towards our relationship turns me off, and now i can't say no to sex if i have stomach ache or i'm not feeling it because he makes a big argument out of it.
I am so stressed out over it, i want to get our sex life back but it's a lot of pressure and a turn off when our whole relationship relies on it.
I have calmly spoke to him about it, but it doesn't seem to make any difference his reaction to not having sex.
Any advice please?
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I almost feel like I know what you mean. I would wake up extra early in the morning just to make sure my boyfriend was taken care of. And it all started because he would make me feel guilty if I left him aroused in the morning or didn't take care of him. He would joke that he would have to call to find a place that gave happy ending or needed to call for services. I hated that he would say that so I would just wake up early and sometimes it would take him a while and I would be late for work. He always used guilt for me. Not break up but that I wasn't taking care of my man. He always said happy boyfriend happy girlfriend. I was getting tired of doing it but I did love him so I still did it. Like everyone here on the panel is saying and have told me... manipulation. I'm out of mine but I am week and miss him dearly. If you don't feel you want to do it at all you shouldn't. Is hard to make that decision when you love someone though. I wish you all the luck in the world that you can make the right choice. Big hug.