Ok so lets talk about chores. I have usually been on the wrong end of this convo as I am just about the perfect definition of a slob, was my ex enabling me because he did 90% of the housework, and I did very little, or was it a case of it mattered more to him if it was done than it did to me? He did end up resenting it, and we fought about it often, but the end result was always the same, I would resolve to do better, but in the end I just don't "see" the mess piling up until it was way beyond his breaking point. About the only things I sucessfully changed was closing drawers and not throwing my winter coat down just inside the door.