Artchic528........It all sounds so familiar. Been through the same type of situation. My dad was someone who very much had anger issues. I had my own problems. There was no way we could communicate to each other what was really important. I've learned one thing about this life. If you can't fend for yourself your going to be subservient to others in one way, shape, or form.
Sounds like your on your way to independence , and that will set you free.
People around you are going to have their own issues to deal with. That will be a big factor in how they treat you. Forget about them for now. Just concentrate on yourself.
Wishing you the best of success.....