Thanks Curley. I just got off the phone with my brother and he just doesn't understand. He wants me to schedule all of my flights for weekends when he's not going to be able to go, yet he didn't consult me when scheduling HIS, so all of the weekends that are available are several weeks from now. I tried to explain that I'll be 6 month pregnant by then and he got really upset with me and said that I should be able to fly until I'm at least 8 months. Yeah, just because I CAN doesn't mean it's comfortable for me, and for that matter, my dad is unlikely to live more than a few more weeks anyway. My brother just doesn't understand that while his flights are short and cheap, mine are long (usually about 10 hours travel time once I'm on board the plan), cost 2-3 times as much as his do, and I need to miss work each time I do it. Not to mention the fact that it's very uncomfortable to sit for that long, my pregnancy puts me at risk for circulation problems, and I certainly don't want to end up losing my baby if I go into premature labor. I'm 38, not 23 - I need to be a little more careful.

But he doesn't get it and probably can't. However, I've been upset about this for the past few hours since I got off the phone with him and I can't seem to let it go

To answer your questions - he is younger than I am, and he is NOT the primary caregiver. He's just the one who he feels loves my dad the most. That's probably true - I'm not close to my dad and his marriage to my stepmom is one of a more practical nature than deep love. But that's not the point, and I wish I could pound that into his head. He's still my dad and I *am* trying my best, dammit. It hurts that my best isn't good enough