We kinda take turns saying it, in that we dont say it at the same time to each other. If i say it, he will say thank you or something like that, then either later in the session, at saying goodbye, or in a next session, he will say it to me (organically, not just out of the blue), by which time i wont feel like saying it, because its where HES coming from at the moment, not me. So then i understand why he didnt say it when i said it earlier.

How often are people at the same place at the same time? And even so, a t does or should try to remain an observer of the moment, as well as participating in the moment as a t.

You know, like how reporters arent supposed to change the story they are reporting - they should just let somebody drown in a hurricane okay, i saw a reporter not offer his jacket to someone at irma, but then someone else did.