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Originally Posted by FallDuskTrain
Yes
That is unfortunately is the case. The sooner we accept that reality, and stop controlling or changing it, the less we will suffer.
I have lived in the US majority of my life and I have gone through grief, cancer, homelessness, and more... yet, noone offered support. Not even a tiny 'how are you?'
It is not their fault. That is all they know. I have suffered from lack of attention while I was going through chemo and homeless but it was my fault to try to control others' actions.
We cannot make other people care for us.
Life is difficult for them as well.
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I know Epictetus says that we have to accept what others do and just control our responses, but as a teacher it is part of my job to change how people behave. I routinely tell students they have to act differently, and I tell adults the same thing Sometimes it works; sometimes it doesn't. I do not agree that it is necessary to passively react to whatever is thrown one's way without trying to guide their behavior. I do not see that to be the case, and there is collaboration, pressure, rules that leads to people changing their actions. I don't agree with how my boss, my psychologist, nor my co-workers handled this situation, and I ended my therapy with my therapist, so presumably loss of a client is a type of pressure.