Wow good on you for doing what you needed to do. it sounds like you are doing all the things you need to do to take care of yourself and set appropriate boundaries in this friendship (and learning about appropriate boundaries inside too).
I am a bit like you I tend to make decisions without consulting inside and it does backfire sometimes. My new t has asked me a couple times already are all the parts inside okay with that and I am like "I don't know, what does that matter?" Guess I have some learning to do of my own in that regard.