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Originally Posted by lilclassicbeauty
I almost feel like I know what you mean. I would wake up extra early in the morning just to make sure my boyfriend was taken care of. And it all started because he would make me feel guilty if I left him aroused in the morning or didn't take care of him. He would joke that he would have to call to find a place that gave happy ending or needed to call for services. I hated that he would say that so I would just wake up early and sometimes it would take him a while and I would be late for work. He always used guilt for me. Not break up but that I wasn't taking care of my man. He always said happy boyfriend happy girlfriend. I was getting tired of doing it but I did love him so I still did it. Like everyone here on the panel is saying and have told me... manipulation. I'm out of mine but I am week and miss him dearly. If you don't feel you want to do it at all you shouldn't. Is hard to make that decision when you love someone though. I wish you all the luck in the world that you can make the right choice. Big hug.
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I understand everything that you are saying but he has never been like this before, he used to make it enjoyable and exciting but now he just asks me if i want to have sex and it so unappealing because hes just asking and not being spontaneous. I keep thinking if i just sit down and explain to him that he was doing alright before and he never needed to put pressure on me for me to want to have sex with him, then maybe he will realize he is doing things all wrong, but i talk to him and he gets defensive and tries to put it all on me.
Sometimes i think it might be better for us to be apart, but its unbearable to think about never mind do. I can't leave him because he is a good person and he is so kind and caring and thoughtful almost all of the time, i think hes in a rut at the moment and he can't think of any other solution to get what he wants. But i need to find a way to get through to him otherwise it will break us apart.