Well, that sounds like some good stuff too.

I had a little talk with my upcoming guest's wife today, trying to nicely say that I had no room at my table for more than one person (me). UGH. This did not go so well. I am now in the position that it is OK if my apartment is a mess, and he would be more than happy to sit on the couch holding a plate of food. Just so long as I have a plate and a fork, he will be fine, she told me.

I tried to hint that it might be nice if he and I could sit down at a table together in his motel room, face to face, and eat a meal together. (rather than side by side, sitting on my couch holding plates in our hands, in other words).

I don't recall what she replied to that. Which probably means that she did not reply to it at all, but probably changed the subject.

So, I will probably end up on my couch holding a plate, while he sits next to me holding his, surrounded by my messy home. It seems I still don't have any real choices.

I need to learn how to better speak up on my own behalf! I think they call that assertiveness training. I SO need that!