i've talked about it with my wife and we're not going to do anything like that with our friends again. i wish it could work that we could but i know in my heart it won't and i can't let that happen. and i gotta remember that sex ain't supposed to be about just getting off and i love my wife more then just getting off could ever be important to me. most of the time i don't even think about it all.

i'm really really surprised to see that a couple people here think about being hurt or raped in a sexual way. do you think its ok to think about that stuff? i thought i was real sick in the head for thinking it and tryed to not let myself think that stuff anymore. and i wanted to ask to, do you think its ok to look at gay pictures if your marryed?

thank you again everybody for writing back. i been real messed up about this for awhile and real afraid to say anything about it and when i freak out and start thinking stupid stuff i been coming back and reading everything you guys said and i feel so much better thank you