I don't feel normal either. I don't have a BPD diagnosis, but I identify with much of the diagnostic criteria. I often feel like I wish I had a label to put a name to the difficulties I have experienced with functioning in my life.

Some doctors and therapists aren't as focused on diagnoses though. I think if you see a really good doctor or therapist who takes the time to understand the issues you struggle with and that truly care, and are competent at dealing with those specific issues, that is probably more helpful than anything else.