My husband and I got in a huge fight this morning like literally 10 seconds after I walked into the kitchen. Didn't even have a chance to get coffee.

He asked "did you go outside in the middle of the night and have a smoke?" I said I didn't remember and asked why he wanted know. "Well when I got up the alarm was off and now I'm concerned that you don't remember." My prickly MI feelers started twitching. Geez not everything is about my MI. I just forgot. I'm allowed to be human! Fight ensues. Now he's slammed the door to his office his office and will probably be in there fuming and moping all day.

I think we are starting to suffer from care giver burn out. And are turning on each other and fighting about things that usually wouldn't bother us.

My mother in law is 84. Her husband died 5years ago. Her twin sister died last year. All but a few of her friends are gone too. She's lonely and tired of living. I can see where she's coming from. The majority of her life is behind her. She says she's tired of living and wants to go home and be with her loved ones in heaven.

Her health is failing and she's been hospitalized twice in the last few months. When home she doesn't eat well, doesn't want to excercise or go anywhere.

She's depressed, I think this is obvious. But it's situational depression. My husband and his brother get very angry with her and insist that she eat and take care of herself. They use a condescending tone of voice with her and talk to her like she's a child. It's disrespectful, but I know that don't mean that way. They love their mother and they are scared.

Now they have told her that she has take antidepressants or they will remove her from her home and put her in assisted living. From an MI perpective, this disturbs me deeply. I don't agree with forcing her to take psych meds.

I'm walking a tightrope of trying to be her advocate while trying not to alienate my husband and brother in law.

Anyway, I think we need counseling. This issue is not going to go away, and will only get worse as her health declines.

PS: while I was typing this he got in his car and drove away. He never leaves without saying good bye until just now. Yea we need help.