Thanks, Bjornen. I thought I'd improved, but a change in my work situation has left me struggling again. Over the years, I have (not very healthily) put a lot of energy into charming, disarming (or even seducing) angry superiors, in order to make me feel safe. All my tricks are failing me, and I'm ashamed to realise I have as few defences now as when I first escaped home.

Thank you.