danialla, I once saw a bumper sticker that said :" christians are'nt perfect, just forgiven"...i do ask why, but not nearly as much as I once did...I'm more concerned with "what now"? in my estimation it would be impossible to over emphasise the importance of "choices", do we choose to feel negative about something being taken from us? or can we be glad we had it at all? God is my heavenly father, and he understands my pain and confusion...he can give me peace about things when I cry on his shoulder...you know what ego stands for? Edging God Out...life hands us "hot potatoes" who do we pass them to? if we want to be the boss when times are good then guess what...we also get the problems that we cant handle to deal with on our own. as far as the being thankful part goes, man brought all of the sickness,death, war,poverty into the world thru adam and HIS bad choices, I'm just thankful that IN that situation I don't have to be hopeless...thats what I'm thankful for!