thanks Malady. Actually I feel like I'm taking hits from my bf's family and possibly his therapists, although I'm not there to defend. This is an issue that I knew before my bf and I were bf and gf, and I never had a problem with it, and now that he's getting help all of these "experts" have a bit of a problem with my not having a problem, and I still don't have one, but it makes me worry that I am not helping him, if that makes any sense. I knew going in that this was there, I did some soul searching then to determine if I thought it was ever going to become a problem, decided it wasn't, and so far I have been right, and I don't think that will change. BUT what if it's really not good for him that I don't have a problem with it? How would I know? The only two people this affects is me and him. No one else has to live with the results.