greentires4me, this is the second time you've faced the same situation, & both times you emerged sober. I know it would have been far more difficult if you didn't already have two years & change of sobriety. Still, that friend doesn't sound like much of a friend since he must also have known about your asthma. The term "asshat" comes to mind.

UpDownAround, that is a difficult situation. Since your social anxiety & drinking have kind of dovetailed in the past, I really feel for you. It does remind me, however, of something someone said at a meeting. When asked if he wanted a drink, this guy always said, "I don't drink normally"...as if to sound like "usually." I got a kick out of that. If you get the urge to drink at one of these functions, it might also help to get the phone number of a member of your recovery group so you can call if the urge strikes you. Good luck.