I'm sorry you're in this position. Good for you for hugging him when he came home. You both sound overwhelmed. When my father was terminally ill with cancer, trying to support my mom and take care of him was so very overwhelming. My sister and I went to counseling together during this time to process. It was a life saver. I'm glad your husband is willing to consider it. I hope you can come to a resolution that brings peace and healing.