Hugs captgut, demunie and BCM if y'all like hugs.

Captgut, abuse causes us to feel undeserving of care, of positive attention. It instills a deep sense of worthlessness in us. Many of us can be compassionate towards others but full of self hatred towards ourselves.

I know you won't believe me (it's not a core belief for nothing) yet yes you do deserve T's care and attention.